Posts tagged: sex positive
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i like this blog. i like the empowering message. but here's a question to ponder, one i am still pondering: is it wrong to choose never to have physical contact with someone with an STI? on the one hand, it stops them spreading. on the other, it condemns those with STIs to rejection. is one or the other worse? is it cruel to reject any and all potential partners who don't have a 100% clean bill of health? is it cruel to have an STI and only reveal it after the other person falls for you?
It’s a personal choice. As someone with STIs I totally understand choosing not to get involved with a person with STIs. It is more work and there is no way to be 100% sure you won’t get it. Some people think the extra work and the risk is worth it and some don’t. I do think that it’s important to be honest about STI and your sexual history before the relationship turns sexual.
However, please don’t use the word “clean” when talking about being STI free (or healthy in general) because it does kind of assume those of us without a 100% bill of health are dirty.
I’m disabled and I have herpes, I’m fine if someone doesn’t want to take that on because some people will and that’s all that matters to me.
